FOR MY BETTER HALF

A tree is known by its fruits, a man by his deeds. A good deed is never lost; he who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants kindness gathers love.

Bae,
 I don't know where you are right now, I am not sure if you are dating someone else who you believe you'll get married to someday, I don't know if you are aware I exists, I don't know a lot of stuff that you know or don't and I don't even know if you'll ever get to read this but I’ll write it either way.
I’ve always fantasized of how life will be with you around, I sleep every night imagining that you are right there next to me I guess just like you am lying to myself about the love of my life who always comes to mind every night. I pray I’m the kind of woman your mother always prayed you would find (you know the proverbs 31 wife). Even before I meet you, I just want to let you know how much I love you and how I would wish my parents loved you the same way. With all the love in my heart don’t get an Idea that I will move in with you for a ‘come we stay’ arrangement. I’m much of a hopeless romantic and a fairy tale kind of girl.  Our idea of a happily ever after will have to be via a white wedding, I love flashy, classy and elegant and I refuse to settle for anything less than that from you. 
With divorce cases being the emerging trend, I would like my grandparents’ kind of marriage for us (over 50years). This is such a long period and if we have to make it work it means us agreeing on terms and rules for peaceful co-existence. I figured out I can give you a heads up on my ideas and note that I can only work with changes that will be beneficial to our family.
I’m thinking of three Kids; Ajay (boy), Adora (girl), and Amaryllis (boy/girl) and they are all definitely going to Havard. No house-help will oversee our babies’ homework. We will have to create a workable schedule on homework supervision Mondays can be me, then Tuesday your turn and we’ll interchange as the week goes by. You’ll have to keep time and if you have to be late or if you might not able to make it on time, never forget to give me a heads up (and this will not be a daily excuse). Our kids will have to know Love right from home; keep the flowers, gifts and surprises coming even long after we’ve celebrated our 10^th anniversary. Make sure we share a kiss every morning immediately before you go to work and every evening just when you’ve arrived home. In this way they will understand true love is real and will be sure to spread the love to others.


Family is very important to me and we definitely ought to have a schedule for our weekends. If you are to go out on a Friday night, I will be your company as that will be our bonding night as husband and wife, you have your Saturdays to hang out with your boys as long as you make sure you are home early enough because Sunday is a church day. Every Sunday after church will be family bonding time. We will be alternating between mommy’s day with boys and daddy’s day with the girls and vice versa. We will have at least one Sunday per month to be a family day out probably one at the beginning of the month when there is inflow of cash. We don’t necessarily have to go out, we can decide to watch movies and play monopoly at home and no one will be exempted from these activities.
You’ll be the discipline master as the head of the family. I will not allow favorism even if it’s your little Adora. I was my daddy’s favorite girl but always got the beatings. It will be our job to teach the kids discipline, punishments for wrongs done and congratulations for success achieved. If you have to take any alcoholic drink, just ensure you don’t come home drunk, that will be a bad example for our kids who I don’t want caught in bars and brothels at fourteen. NB: you will not have an option of having a favorite Kid. You have to find a way to make sure all our three kids are your favorites (I’m sorry bae but I can’t compromise here).
 Pet puppies will be an important part of our lives. I’ve grown up living with very cute chiwawas and wouldn’t like our kids to miss on that fun, first it was pinches (which was stolen), then Scooby (that belonged to uncle mike) and now Zara. No argument, it will have to be a chiwawa. They are cute, clean, disciplined and easy to handle and look after we can give it a name like ‘poppy’. Our babies won’t be technology zombies. If you have to buy them gadgets we have to restrict their use only to weekends. The maximum time to be used on a play station will be two hours per day the rest will be to play with the neighbors' kid, taking an afternoon nap, reading a story book or playing with poppy. 
I’m an Afro kind of lady, so you wouldn’t have to worry so much of the kitchen department. I’ll buy the grocery and cook our food, and in return you’ll be that lovely husband who is never late and ready to offer massages to his tired wife. My bedroom is my paradise and I wouldn’t expect any disagreements dragged there, you know ‘Mums are always right’ so unless you the one at fault we can discuss that. As I said earlier, I was daddy’s favorite and that’s why he is my best friend. You’ll have to be ok with his numerous calls and understand what daddy says in most cases is final.  
I hate how jealous I can feel and how hard it is to hide it, trust me I have that special person for you - who loves me more than they will ever love you. They are so special to me too and the moment that you two will be united will be even more special because you will both know that you waited God’s perfect timing. I have a plan for you that is so beautiful; ‘I am not lowering my standards, I’m not settling with just any guy am patiently waiting for you.’ I don’t know you right now, but I still want to share my life, as it is now with you.
Love,
Wifey Pat.